Do you see the difference between
1) I think that is permissible because if you think about it, there is nothing wrong with it.
2) Based on the the arguments put forth by the scholars, I am of the opinion that it is permissible.
For example, listening to music. There are differences of opinions, sure. But I think sometimes the people in the first group did not study the whole argument and therefore assumed, based on ‘what I think’ and ‘what I heard’ until all music becomes permissible, which is not true.
Scary ey? Most of us (including me) sometimes don’t know what we don’t know and assumed that we know when we actually don’t know.
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
People always assume. To be fair, perhaps they say something from their own experience or maybe it is just something that other people say to them, and so they believed them.
We all know there is a rukhsoh (a lighter method) in our deen, but sometimes I always see people using the rukhsoh before even trying to do the proper way.
Like how I was on a Singapore Airlines flight and I needed to do my prayers. We know that we must try our best in praying whilst standing, do proper sujud and rukuk, face the qiblah etc, if it is not possible then you are allowed to do the second best. For example, you can pray in your seat.
So the assumption was that we are not on a muslim country airline like Malaysia Airlines or Qatar etc, obviously people will assume that they wouldn’t allow muslims to pray. But hey let’s try? What do we have to lose?
The stewardess not only let us pray at the back of the plane, she wanted to put down a blanket to cover the ground where we wanted to pray and even closed the curtain behind us so people won’t walk in.
And Alhamdulillah, we managed to perform our prayers while standing, do a proper rukuk and sujud while facing the qiblah.
But of course, the plane wasn’t in a turbulence or anything of that sort. Just ask away, insyaAllah things will be fine.
People also asked me about my hijab. “You used your 60” hijab to the office?”
Yes actually. I actually wear what I normally wear going out. Abaya or a dress with my 60” inch hijab, just throw a blazer on.
The HR person don’t even bother to explain to me the dress code because she said I’m well dressed. I have lecturers in campus coming up to me and complimenting me on what I am wearing for my presentations.
And at that point, I realised that no one is going to deduct my marks for not wearing the normal pants and tucked-in dress shirt. And no one is going to penalised me for not wearing heels or (thick) make up.
And I go to business school where we have presentations for almost all the modules. And obviously, our presentations are important. They check skirt length, sock length, flyaway hairs, whether you iron your clothes properly etc. And I even sit for four months in the client’s office, together with my supervisor/boss/head.
At that point I realised that people assumed that you cannot dress like that (dress/abaya+large hijab) to a non-muslim office kind of setting. But have they actually tried?
Or maybe…. I really got lucky? To be surrounded by nice people. Maybe. And I am ever grateful for the ease He granted in obeying Him. Alhamdulillah thumma Alhamdulillah.
The point is, just try your best to obey Him. Don’t assume before you try. After all, if you are doing it for Him, He got your back.
May He make it easy for us all☺️
K: So I have decided not to wear the hijab…. I think that I am not doing it for Allah. I am not a good person and so I don’t want to be a hypocrite. I feel like I am not reflecting myself and I am not staying true to myself….
L: *SLAPS K*
K: WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?
L: I am sorry but I think I am not staying true to myself and I’ll be a hyprocrite if I don’t slap you. I need to do that….because it reflects what I feel inside. *walks away*
How many of us really act according to what is inside our hearts? Are we defining hypocrisy as how it is supposed to be defined?
At some point of our lives, I think each and every one of us will come across people that genuinely care for us yet we don’t really like them. And then there are people that we actually love them but they don’t really care about us🤷🏻♀️
And with that, always remember that in whatever situation, you are dealing with Allah. Deal with the person how He wants you to. Life is a test. This is one of the tests.
It is hard? Absolutely 100%.
Do I want to hang out with you? Nope. No. Why do I want to.
Taat. Taat. Taat. Jangan ikut perasaan sangat.
I find it beautiful that in one of the recommended surahs to read every night is Surah Mulk.
The first verse started out with ‘tabaarak’ (تبارك) – Blessed be He (Allah). If we were to talk about barakah, which is often explained to us in terms of wealth. That is, a small amount of money, if there is barakah in it, then it will suffice. Obviously, barakah doesn’t just apply to wealth.
The first verse is a reminder that in whatever situation you are in your life, with all the chaos going around, remember that He is in control and He has it all planned out.
And the second verse reminds you of your permanent condition: you will be tested.
And in just these two verses, it is as if a means to coax as well as to reaffirm your heart after all that it has been through.
This life is a test, He is in control, Believe.
Although you are chocked up with your own tears, believe.
تَبَٰرَكَ ٱلَّذِى بِيَدِهِ ٱلْمُلْكُ وَهُوَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَىْءٍ قَدِيرٌ
Blessed is He in Whose Hand is the dominion, and He is Able to do all things.
ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَ ٱلْمَوْتَ وَٱلْحَيَوٰةَ لِيَبْلُوَكُمْ أَيُّكُمْ أَحْسَنُ عَمَلًا ۚ وَهُوَ ٱلْعَزِيزُ ٱلْغَفُورُ
Who has created death and life, that He may test you which of you is best in deed. And He is the All-Mighty, the Oft-Forgiving;