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Not what it seems

It is usually the case that when God take away something from you, He will give you in other ways. 

To most, a holiday is something you plan and usually something you look forward to. But it could be, for some, torturous. 

Maybe you got jealous over some lifestyle, not knowing that was part and parcel of them healing.

May the following excerpts shed some light on you: 

(https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/ocd-and-the-holiday-season/)

So what should OCD sufferers do when faced with all these holiday events fraught with doubt and uncertainty?

The answer is clear. They should push through their anxiety and embrace the doubt and uncertainty that is holding them hostage. Yes, there is uncertainty that comes with traveling or vacationing or entertaining. Indeed, there is uncertainty in every aspect of our lives, and we all need to learn to accept, not fear, it.

I know it’s not easy. My son Dan suffered from OCD so severe he could not even eat. He was barely functioning. I have seen firsthand how OCD can destroy lives. But I have also seen how it can be overcome. I have written before about Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) Therapy, the frontline treatment for OCD, and in a nutshell, this therapy is about facing one’s fears as well as accepting the uncertainty of life. Giving in to what OCD demands only fuels it; standing up to OCD takes away its power. And while ERP therapy is difficult, it’s in no way as hard as living a life dictated by the disorder. Therapists who are properly trained in ERP therapy can help those who are suffering from OCD regain their lives.

If you have obsessive-compulsive disorder, I propose that you give yourself a gift this holiday season and make the commitment to stand up to your OCD. Reclaim your life. You deserve to enjoy the holidays, and every day, with your family and friends instead of being controlled by obsessions and compulsions. It will not only be a gift to yourself, but just might possibly be the best gift you could ever give to those who care about you.”

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Psychic

I think I have been watching The Mentalist a lot these days. I think it is a fun show to watch, very intriguing I must say – how Patrick Jane can solve the case out of the blue.

I think it is, perhaps, cool to become a psychic. But then again, would you want to be one?

The truth hurts, not all the time. But it still hurts sometimes.

I asked one of my almost psychic friend to list down the names of the people I love. She gave a name of someone that I have not talked to nor have I even talked about for a very long time(long as in years), but I still loved her anyway.

And although she accompanied her reply with a capital HAHAHAH when I asked her how she knew, her answer kind of hurt.

Because I think you love her more than me

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Tired

Have anyone ever had those moments where you kept on thinking and thinking till thinking actually hurts? Almost like an overworked machine and you somehow tried to stop it but you can’t? But at least, it is better now. It used to be vivid voices inside my head. And in those days, there is such a thing as a voice call. So when the voices got louder, I’ll call her till I fall asleep. But things aren’t so simple now. Apparently all of us don’t hear each other’s voices over a phone call. We whatsapp now, most of the times, void of feelings. We hide our true feelings behind emojis. Everything is complicated now. It used to be just school. Now there is work, other relationships and other stuffs. Even people are not okay. Now everyone is tired. Isn’t that what everybody says?

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Assumptions 

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

People always assume. To be fair, perhaps they say something from their own experience or maybe it is just something that other people say to them, and so they believed them.

We all know there is a rukhsoh (a lighter method) in our deen, but sometimes I always see people using the rukhsoh before even trying to do the proper way.

Like how I was on a Singapore Airlines flight and I needed to do my prayers. We know that we must try our best in praying whilst standing, do proper sujud and rukuk, face the qiblah etc, if it is not possible then you are allowed to do the second best. For example, you can pray in your seat.

So the assumption was that we are not on a muslim country airline like Malaysia Airlines or Qatar etc, obviously people will assume that they wouldn’t allow muslims to pray. But hey let’s try? What do we have to lose?

The stewardess not only let us pray at the back of the plane, she wanted to put down a blanket to cover the ground where we wanted to pray and even closed the curtain behind us so people won’t walk in. 

And Alhamdulillah, we managed to perform our prayers while standing, do a proper rukuk and sujud while facing the qiblah.

But of course, the plane wasn’t in a turbulence or anything of that sort. Just ask away, insyaAllah things will be fine.

People also asked me about my hijab. “You used your 60” hijab to the office?” 

Yes actually. I actually wear what I normally wear going out. Abaya or a dress with my 60” inch hijab, just throw a blazer on.

The HR person don’t even bother to explain to me the dress code because she said I’m well dressed. I have lecturers in campus coming up to me and complimenting me on what I am wearing for my presentations.

And at that point, I realised that no one is going to deduct my marks for not wearing the normal pants and tucked-in dress shirt. And no one is going to penalised me for not wearing heels or (thick) make up.

And I go to business school where we have presentations for almost all the modules. And obviously, our presentations are important. They check skirt length, sock length, flyaway hairs, whether you iron your clothes properly etc. And I even sit for four months in the client’s office, together with my supervisor/boss/head. 

At that point I realised that people assumed that you cannot dress like that (dress/abaya+large hijab) to a non-muslim office kind of setting. But have they actually tried?

Or maybe…. I really got lucky? To be surrounded by nice people. Maybe. And I am ever grateful for the ease He granted in obeying Him. Alhamdulillah thumma Alhamdulillah.

The point is, just try your best to obey Him. Don’t assume before you try. After all, if you are doing it for Him, He got your back.

May He make it easy for us all☺️

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Such is Life

(Continuation from the recent post: Believe)

And as you are reminded of the nature of life, in which you are constantly being tested, and perhaps there are doubts in your heart of the one giving you those tests, read on. 

The next two verses tell you that Allah had created the skies, with absolutely no faults and cracks. And then He questions: Can you find any cracks? And yet again, the next verse tells us to look again at the sky, are there any imperfections?

And somehow, whenever I look up at the sky, it reminded me so much of this life. 

On somedays, there can thunderstorms, there’ll be dark clouds. But on most days, you’ll see the blue sky, with its bouncy-looking white clouds.

The perfection of the sky includes some of the most magnificent view, such as during the sunrise and sunset. But it also includes some of the worst weather ever.

And such is life.