بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
الحمد لله رب العالمين
والصلاة والسلام على أشرف الأنبياء والمرسلين وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين
This post is basically notes written by the writer from the third halaqah by Ustazah Nur Huraidah about the book, Ayyuhal Walad (O My Beloved Son), on the 20th of April 2016 at Al-Istirghfar Mosque, Singapore.
Dedicated to Ummu Meow that cannot make it to the class:)
1) Based on the hadith of Rasulullah صلى الله عليه وسلم
(كل أمر ذي بال لا يبدأ فيه ببسم الله الرحمن الرحيم فهو أقطع أو (فهو ابتر
Which is roughly translated as: any work started without bismillah ar-rahman ar-rahim is cut off i.e from any blessing.
Or in other narration, without ‘Alhamdulillah’.
Thus always begin something with Bismillah, Alhamdulillah and salutation to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم.
When there is no blessing, there will be no benefit.
We send salutation to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم as all knowledge that we are receiving derived from him (that he got from Allah) and hopefully it will increase the light or the benefit of the knowledge.
2) Allah will raise a person as how he treats the knowledge of the religion
3) <To Be Updated >
4) It is from the etiquette of a student to do his own research before asking the teacher.
5) Rasulullah صلى الله عليه وسلم was there to teach us. Similarly, for example, when he always make the dua of اللهم إني أعوذ بك من علم لا ينفع (O Allah, I seek refuge in you from knowledge which is not beneficial), it is to teach us to make that dua. I.e. logically he is indeed the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم, so by right all the knowledge that Allah bestowed upon him will of course be beneficial.
6) A good recurring thought is from Allah while a good once-off thought is from the Malaaikah (Angel).
For example, if you woke up in the middle of the night and you thought of doing tahajjud (night voluntary prayer) but instead you continued to sleep and only got up for fajr prayer, most likely that is from the malaaikah.
But if you keep waking up, most likely it is straight from Allah.
The benefit of knowing who it is from is that when it is from a higher authority we will feel more appreciated and more energetic to do it.
7) Before reading any book, it is from the etiquette of a student to read the following dua:
.قال الشيخ المؤلف رحمه الله: أدام الله النفع به وبعلومه وبعلوم مشائخه في الدارين. آمين
Which is roughly translated as: May Allah continue to let us benefit from him, his knowledge and his teachers’ knowledge, in this world and in the hereafter.
InsyaAllah it will then be easier to understand and there will be barakah (blessings). Additionally this is so we remember the wasilah or the means (the writer of the book) in which we are able to get the knowledge and at the same time we do not become arrogant.
8) In searching for knowledge, 90% is basically in the etiquette itself and only 10% is the knowledge. There is no barakah or no use if knowledge is present in the absence of proper etiquette.
9) If we want to give an advice to a person, it is a sunnah in starting off with calling for them in a nice way.
For example, this book, Ayyuhal Walad, is actually a return reply of Imam Al-Ghazali (رحمه الله)to his beloved student that had asked him for advice. To start off the advice, he (رحمه الله) begins with Yaa Ayyuhal Walad which is translated to O my beloved son.
In relation to this, Ustazah (Teacher) talked about the hadith musalsal bil mahabbah ( حديث المسلسل بالمحبة):
عن معاذ بن جبل (رضي الله عنه) قال: قال لي رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم: يا معاذ ! والله إني أحبك وأوصيك أن لا تدع في دبر كل صلاة أن تقول : اللهم أعني على ذكرك وشكرك وحسن عبادتك
Narrated upon the authority of Mu’adh ibn Jabal (May Allah be pleased with him) who said: The Prophet peace be upon him said to me: O Mu’adh, verily I love you and I advise you to say these words after every prayer: O Allah, help me to remember you, thank you and to better perform my worship of you.
10) Saying Jazaakallah Khairan (جزاك لله خيرا) which is translated to ‘May Allah reward you with goodmess’, is the best gift you can give as a respond to people’s favors to you.
11) With regards to the words in the book (Page 11) “semoga Allah taala memudahkan bagimu untuk mengikuti jalan para kekasihNya”, which means ‘may Allah ease you to follow the path of His lovers‘. Ustazah made reference to the hadith where there will be seven Malaaikah that will take care of the seven ‘gates’ in the heaven (heaven as in seven layers of sky not Jannah) in which our deeds will need to go through before it will be accepted by Allah. Basically it must be sincerely done for the sake of Allah.
The seven things that were highlighted that will cause a deed to be rejected are:
1) Backbiting الغيبةِ
2) Done for worldly pleasures عرَضَ الدُّنيا
3) Arrogant متكبِّرٍ
4) Show off العُجْبَ
5) Envy الحسَدِ
6) Do not have mercy لم يرحَمْ شيئًا
7) Not for Allah but instead to let people see his good actions رياء
(P/S: This is from google. There are variations of the hadith. Sorry can’t find the english translation.
Arabic Text: http://hdith.com/?s=العمل
At the end of the hadith, Sayyidina Muadz bin Jabal was saying,
يا نبيَّ اللهِ ومن يُطيقُ هذه الخِصالَ ؟ قال : يا معاذُ إنَّه ليسير على من يسَّره اللهُ عليه
Which is roughly translated as: O Prophet of Allah, and who will be able to overcome this? (To which the) Prophet replied: O Muadz, it will be easy for whoever Allah had made it easy for them.
12) The Taufeeq (Guidance) of Allah includes from the start of when He eases you to come to class > understand what was being taught with the correct understanding > act upon the knowledge > share or teach others the knowledge.
13) The word ‘advised’ in arabic is نصح. This same word is used in a sentence نصحت الثوب which means I altered the dress.
This word is used to show a high degree of specialization to an individual depending on what he needs. As such, when we want to advise a person, we should always advise them based on his needs.
A similar sounding word to نصيحة (advice) is فضيحة, from the root word فضح which means ‘exposed’. So فضيحة is to advise in front of people i.e. exposing his faults in front of people
14) If the advice is not from heart and if we do so in a very arrogant manner, the advice will be futile.
15) Ustazah talked about her Ustaz (Teacher) that said that we are all still young, so why are we lazy in memorizing or do not put the intention to memorize.
Ustazah suggested us to put the intention to at least memorize the 40 hadith which was compiled by Imam Nawawi (رحمه الله)
16) If we have a good intention, Allah will open for us 70 doors of taufeeq (guidance).
17) We are actually on page 11 of the book (The introduction before the actual advices) which Imam Al-Ghazali (رحمه الله) was saying that the source of all advices is from Hadith, so if it had reached you (talking to the student) what more do you need from my advice?
This is basically to show his tawaadhuk (Humbleness).
The sources of all knowledge are from the al-Quran and Hadith.
18) If you are always with the al-Quran in this world, it will accompany you in your grave.
19) If we are busy with our ourselves (i.e. our own faults), we will not be looking or will not be busy with other’s faults.
اللَّهُمَّ انْفَعْنا بِمَا عَلَّمْتَنا، وَعَلِّمْنا مَا يَنْفَعُنا، وَزِدْنا عِلْمًا
اللهم صل على سيدنا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه وسلم
جزاكم لله خيرا to Al, Adek and Kak Nadia for helping in the course of writing this =)