Should I just slap her?
“Stop comparing yourself to others!”
A few years back, she told me that her teacher suddenly explain a little bit about the verse in surah Toha
وَلَا تَمُدَّنَّ عَيْنَيْكَ إِلَىٰ مَا مَتَّعْنَا بِهِ أَزْوَاجًا مِنْهُمْ زَهْرَةَ الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا لِنَفْتِنَهُمْ فِيهِ ۚ وَرِزْقُ رَبِّكَ خَيْرٌ وَأَبْقَىٰ
And do not extend your eyes toward that by which We have given enjoyment to [some] categories of them, [its being but] the splendor of worldly life by which We test them. And the provision of your Lord is better and more enduring.
She was surprised how suitable that ayat was to her condition. As if the teacher was preparing her heart.
But all of us have our days where we just….well…compare ourselves to others although we shouldn’t. (Depends)
She and her complains. *sigh*
“Why can’t I be like normal people?”
“Why can they just keep their wudhuk and just pray whenever they want?”
“Why does it take them a short while?”
“Why must I go through a very loonggg lonnggg tiringgg process just to pray?”
What should I tell her? I can’t be there for her 24/7.
“Babe, you know….I know you get tired and frustrated because of your health issues but look on the bright side. Perhaps your obligatory weighs heavier because of the process. Maybe. People can pray wherever they want like shopping malls. But you always need the mosque’s toilet (water hose) and take your wudhuk again so you will end up praying at the mosque. Take it as a gift that He is indirectly forcing you to go to His house. Every step to His house to pray, if God wills, removes a sin and increase you in rank. Think it that way okay? Okay? Okay?”
But I know it is not just that. It is all the places she would have gone to. The gatherings she refused to go. The people she stayed away from. All the ‘funny’ remarks. All the missed opportunities.
What should I tell her?