Title: Youths who grew up in the obedience of Allah swt
Date: 13th January 2013
By: Sheikh Daood Butt
Note: The speaker sort of diverts the topic a bit since the audience is mostly adults rather than youths.
The Hadith is:
The Prophet saw said (meaning): There are seven whom Allah will shade in His shade on the Day when there is no shade but except His shade: a just ruler; a youth who grew up in the worship of Allah, the Mighty and Majestic; a man whose heart is attached to the mosques; two men who love each other for Allah’s sake, meeting for that and parting upon that; a man who is called by a woman of beauty and position [for illegal intercourse], but he says: ‘I fear Allah’, a man who gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives in charity; and a man who remembered Allah in private and so his eyes shed tears.’
Narrated by Abu Hurairah & collected in Sahih al-Bukhari (english trans.) vol.1, p.356, no.629 & Sahih Muslim english trans.) vol.2, p.493, no.2248
Key points from the talk:
A just ruler
-Mother and Father
-Plays a big role to bring up the child
-To make the child to be the youth who grew up in worship of Allah swt
When the parents agreed to send their child overseas to say, continue his education there, in a way, showing that they believed that they had done well in bringing him up as a slave of Allah swt i.e When the child is in a completely different society, they are confident that the child would not be influenced by his surroundings.
Thus the parents must ensure that they had equipped their child with the teachings of Islam and insyaAllah he will be a man of taqwa. With this, whenever he go to, even when no one sees him, he knows that Allah ‘Azza wa jal sees him.
1) Start teaching the child since young or even from the day when they are born. Read aloud the dua we know to them out loud. E.g. Go in and out of the bathroom or before or after each meal etc.
2) Teach the child of the signs of Allah swt in the surrounding. For example, the light bulb story.
*Dad and Child Conversation *
Dad: Where does the light come from?
Child: The light bulb
D: How does the light appear?
C: You switch on the power
D: How does it come about?
C There is electricity that flow in the wire
*One day open up the wire *
D: So you said the electricity flow through the wire, so where is it?
C: you can’t see it
D: Like Allah swt, you know He is there but you can’t see Him. But through the surroundings you can see his power/greatness.
*Fast forward- child at overseas *
(Child grew up to be a youth. Scenario: Child feeling down.
Women (his classmates etc): Want to go out for coffee?
Child (as in grown up): Ok sure.
*Grown up child go back to hostel. Switch on the light. Remembers Allah swt. And he remembers the lesson his parent had taught him. And so he call the women back and cancel the plan.
All in all, it is important to be aware of His miracles in our surrounding. From the smallest thing that we took for granted like the light we use every single moment.
3) The gift that we can give to our children is a righteous Husband/wife. Find not only our spouse but also the teacher to our children.
“…You have to realize that you are not just choosing a spouse but you are also choosing a parent for your child. Know that the first right of your child is that you choose a righteous parent for him/her.
The Prophet said, “Choose a spouse for your children…” (Ibn Majah).” Aiman Azlan @ aimanazlan.com
4) Start with ourselves. “Parenting starts before marriage, the first child you raise is yourself” –Aiman Azlan@ aimanazlan.com
Before we start putting guidelines, hopes and dreams for our children. Start with ourselves. If we think that we have gone astray, then change. Start small. Expectations to your child should be the expectations you have put for yourselves first. E.g. Praying on time or be a righteous child but you are disobedient to your parents.
The speaker shares with us that he had asked a few sheikhs and imams on how they had become who they are today and the answers are that they start by allocating a small portion of their time for Allah swt. For example, 5 minutes during breaks to do zikr or watch some Islamic lectures or read the Quran etc.
So start small. And insyaAllah we will feel the difference in our lives.
5) Every action we do is important.
Besides the fact that it is being witness by Allah ‘azza wa jal and the two angels that is writing our deeds, we should remember that our actions will be witnessed by our children and they might imitate that. As simple as how we would not want our children in the future to talk in an impolite manner, we should start now by thinking how our parents feel knowing that we talk in a certain manner that is not polite, rude and on top of that could include vulgarities. Nauzubillah.
Besides that, for youth, you might be a role model to someone, an example for someone; you have your little siblings; your mentees; your tutees. Do not underestimate yourself.
For example: Being late for class when you are the teacher. Well since the ilmu is with us then we sort of have the authority right? (No, but in a way…) But think of it on a long-term impact, the students might have the habit of always coming late for class cause they know that the teacher will be late.
When the habit sticks than you are sort of at fault now. You showed a bad example and, too bad, the habit sticks. Now these future generation will end up having a habit of coming to class late and guess what, it is because of you.
Unless they are disciplined enough and/or change their bad habits.
Don’t wait until we become parents to our children to then start thinking the impact of our actions to our children. Start now.
6) The child who grew up in the worship of Allah is raised by righteous parents (The just ruler). This child when grows up will be the same child who will have a heart that is attached to the mosques; and he will have a relationship with a brother in Islam and love each other for Allah’s sake, meeting for that and parting upon that; the same child will be grow up into a man who is called by a woman of beauty and position [for illegal intercourse], but he says: ‘I fear Allah’; he will gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives in charity; and he will become a man who remembers Allah in private and so his eyes shed tears.