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Youths who grew up in the obedience of Allah swt by Sheikh Daood Butt

A summary

Title: Youths who grew up in the obedience of Allah swt
Date: 13th January 2013
By: Sheikh Daood Butt

Note: The speaker sort of diverts the topic a bit since the audience is mostly adults rather than youths.

The Hadith is:

 The Prophet saw said (meaning): There are seven whom Allah will shade in His shade on the Day when there is no shade but except His shade: a just ruler; a youth who grew up in the worship of Allah, the Mighty and Majestic; a man whose heart is attached to the mosques; two men who love each other for Allah’s sake, meeting for that and parting upon that; a man who is called by a woman of beauty and position [for illegal intercourse], but he says: ‘I fear Allah’, a man who gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives in charity; and a man who remembered Allah in private and so his eyes shed tears.’

Narrated by Abu Hurairah & collected in Sahih al-Bukhari (english trans.) vol.1, p.356, no.629 & Sahih Muslim english trans.) vol.2, p.493, no.2248

 Key points from the talk:

A just ruler

-Mother and Father
-Plays a big role to bring up the child
-To make the child to be the youth who grew up in worship of Allah swt

When the parents agreed to send their child overseas to say, continue his education there, in a way, showing that they believed that they had done well in bringing him up as a slave of Allah swt i.e When the child is in a completely different society, they are confident that the child would not be influenced by his surroundings.

Thus the parents must ensure that they had equipped their child with the teachings of Islam and insyaAllah he will be a man of taqwa. With this, whenever he go to, even when no one sees him, he knows that Allah ‘Azza wa jal sees him.

1) Start teaching the child since young or even from the day when they are born. Read aloud the dua we know to them out loud. E.g. Go in and out of the bathroom or before or after each meal etc.

2) Teach the child of the signs of Allah swt in the surrounding. For example, the light bulb story.

 *Dad and Child Conversation *

Dad: Where does the light come from?

Child: The light bulb

D: How does the light appear?

C: You switch on the power

D: How does it come about?

C There is electricity that flow in the wire

*One day open up the wire *

D: So you said the electricity flow through the wire, so where is it?

C: you can’t see it

D: Like Allah swt, you know He is there but you can’t see Him. But through the surroundings you can see his power/greatness.

*Fast forward- child at overseas *

(Child grew up to be a youth. Scenario: Child feeling down.

Women (his classmates etc): Want to go out for coffee?

Child (as in grown up): Ok sure.

*Grown up child go back to hostel. Switch on the light. Remembers Allah swt. And he remembers the lesson his parent had taught him. And so he call the women back and cancel the plan.

All in all, it is important to be aware of His miracles in our surrounding. From the smallest thing that we took for granted like the light we use every single moment.

3) The gift that we can give to our children is a righteous Husband/wife. Find not only our spouse but also the teacher to our children.

“…You have to realize that you are not just choosing a spouse but you are also choosing a parent for your child. Know that the first right of your child is that you choose a righteous parent for him/her.

The Prophet said, “Choose a spouse for your children…” (Ibn Majah).” Aiman Azlan @ aimanazlan.com

4) Start with ourselves. “Parenting starts before marriage, the first child you raise is yourself” –Aiman Azlan@ aimanazlan.com

Before we start putting guidelines, hopes and dreams for our children. Start with ourselves. If we think that we have gone astray, then change. Start small. Expectations to your child should be the expectations you have put for yourselves first. E.g. Praying on time or be a righteous child but you are disobedient to your parents.

The speaker shares with us that he had asked a few sheikhs and imams on how they had become who they are today and the answers are that they start by allocating a small portion of their time for Allah swt. For example, 5 minutes during breaks to do zikr or watch some Islamic lectures or read the Quran etc.

So start small. And insyaAllah we will feel the difference in our lives.

5) Every action we do is important.

Besides the fact that it is being witness by Allah ‘azza wa jal and the two angels that is writing our deeds, we should remember that our actions will be witnessed by our children and they might imitate that. As simple as how we would not want our children in the future to talk in an impolite manner, we should start now by thinking how our parents feel knowing that we talk in a certain manner that is not polite, rude and on top of that could include vulgarities. Nauzubillah.

Besides that, for youth, you might be a role model to someone, an example for someone; you have your little siblings; your mentees; your tutees. Do not underestimate yourself.

For example: Being late for class when you are the teacher. Well since the ilmu is with us then we sort of have the authority right? (No, but in a way…) But think of it on a long-term impact, the students might have the habit of always coming late for class cause they know that the teacher will be late.

When the habit sticks than you are sort of at fault now. You showed a bad example and, too bad, the habit sticks. Now these future generation will end up having a habit of coming to class late and guess what, it is because of you.

Unless they are disciplined enough and/or change their bad habits.

Don’t wait until we become parents to our children to then start thinking the impact of our actions to our children. Start now.

6) The child who grew up in the worship of Allah is raised by righteous parents (The just ruler). This child when grows up will be the same child who will have a heart that is attached to the mosques; and he will have a relationship with a brother in Islam and love each other for Allah’s sake, meeting for that and parting upon that; the same child will be grow up into a man who is called by a woman of beauty and position [for illegal intercourse], but he says: ‘I fear Allah’; he will gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives in charity; and he will become a man who remembers Allah in private and so his eyes shed tears.

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Pushed- edited version

I did not want to
But I was forced to anyway
Caught up in a situation
Which I put myself there in the first place
Now I am being cornered
There is simply no other way

In other words
I was simply pushed
Deeply hurt
It penetrates through this heart
No no wait,
It was as if pain was from within this heart

But I know

It was as if,
By pushing me
I was supposed to realize
Just how far i can jump

As if on a broken bridge
I was underestimating my strength
And overestimating the gap
Being pessimistic as i usually am

As if on the edge of a cliff
Like an eagle with a sharp vision
And powerful wings
I did not know they ever worked till then

And it was as if i was pushed so that this hope of mine shattered
but…
To only making me see the light of another hope that i desire to see in my life

Too long in this dark tunnel
That glimpse of light just lift me up
From almost dragging to running
Really, there is hope

Now forget jumping,
Im flying

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Freedom

This is a script for my compulsory secondary four speech given during assembly back then.

Assalamu’alaikumwarahmatullahiwabarakaatuh.

I will start my speech with a text that I had recently received from a friend.

“I’m so tempted to do what my mum doesn’t want me to. Why doesn’t she trust me? I have no freedom. I’m jailed in my own house”

I replied: “When you’re a mum you’ll understand. Your mum gave you a handphone because you need it. She trusted you to use it properly, but have you really used it as she expects you to, or had you broken that trust?”

This is an example of trust and what the girl’s wants, freedom.
Everything happens for a reason, right? Sometimes we don’t get the freedom our friends have, but did you ever ask yourself why? Have you ever thought about what you might do to the freedom that was given to you?

Ask yourself:

1) if you live in a world full of freedom, no parents to tell you this and that, will you be able to differentiate between good and bad?

2) if freedom gives you the opportunity to go out whenever, wherever, will you go to the right places?

3) if freedom allows you to befriend anyone, will you be with the right companion?

4) if freedom give you the chance to dress however you wanted, will it be appropriate as how Islam had taught you?

5) if not because of your dear parents who stops you from doing something, will you be able to stop yourself from crossing the boundaries set by Islam?

6) if freedom brings you away from Allah, are you sure you want freedom?

Freedom is what all or most teenagers want, and they’ll be mad, angry and rebellious if it is not given. Living in a world with all the freedom you ever want, away from any advice, far from any prohibition and reprimands from parents. Can you be human?

But despite saying that, sometimes a little freedom is also needed to give the teenager’s space to lead their own lives. If it is not given at all, we teenagers might rebel, right?

So lesson is, a little freedom is needed, but too much of it could harm us or worse, destroy us. No matter how grown up you think you are, we still need guidance.

With that I end my speech with Wabillahittaufiiqwalhidayah, wassalamu’alaikumwarahmatullahiwabarakaatuh.

I still think the conclusion is weak and i don’t know. Just lack of.

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Staring

Perhaps you forgt that at any place
She usually ended up hiding her face
And suddenly needed to increase her pace
Because some are just attracted by whats on the surface

Well…you obviously tensed up
And the change in your attitude so abrupt
You make the whole outing become so messed up
She needed to calm you down as you almost blew up

But then back home you posted a picture of you two together
With no restrictions whatsoever
And if you only accept guys as your friends in facebook
Then i guess most of them have the chance to…look?

This is not to think bad of your peers
But isnt it you too who ‘accidentally’ take a second look at her
It amazes me tht you are actually proud that alot of people like the picture
You said: “they just like the picture” my question is “are you sure?”

We agree the face is not obligatory to cover
But can i have a show of hands saying that someone agree with me on this matter?
I am not putting any ruling on this issue
I am just asking, does this makes sense to you?

Doesn’t staring by any means and whoever mean the same thing?
Someone is staring at your wife, you ought to say nothing?
Is there something wrong with you?
Or this is just something i must revalue?

Perhaps i am over analyzing the situation
A mere manifestation of what i feel needed to be done
Also maybe a desperate call to my sisters in my deen
Perhaps there should be a screen in between

How could i not think it this way
When guys dare stare when noticed anyway
Despite the fact that you saw them straight in the face
Despite knowing that the angels is taking down that gaze

Or perhaps you want to blame it on her
And say “you know there is this thing called niqab, my dear”
Now that is another topic altogether
But anyways you know that is not obligatory on her

Perhaps a note to my future husband;)